“The Secret” is one of the largest, if not the largest, “new age”/”new thought” publications ever released. While there is a great portion of this information that I agree with, I think, in substance, it leaves something on the table to the point of almost being a disservice.
When I began studying the law of attraction, it seemed so enigmatic and ethereal that I had difficulty grasping the concept of it. My thought was “so all I have to do is write something out that I want, review it several times per day, meditate on it and it will come to me out of nowhere to the now here?” Something about this just didn’t make any sense. What I took from it was that all I had to do was watch for the signs and when I saw one, act on that and my desire would manifest before my eyes.
Hmmm…
Some things, sure, others, well, no
While in Bob Proctors’ coaching program, he said many times over that when he first started using the process, he didn’t believe it would work and yet, for him, it did. I believe this to be true.
Many, many millions of people have benefited greatly from this process. There is something to be said for having a desire and working toward that. I have absolute faith in a life force that operates for us to our greatest and higher good. Everyone has access to this. For me, though, there was something missing.
I worked on this process for quite a while and still use it. I haven’t seen anything manifest in front of me that I didn’t justly earn. While I can say, without any hesitation, that there have been times when this process has worked for me. The example of the visualizing and believing that there would be parking spot where I wanted it when I needed it to be there has worked for me year after year. (this works for me to the point of being almost startling) However, there seems, with me, to be a limit on what I can attract. There have been wants and desires that I’ve had that haven’t manifested at all nor did I see any signs that would lead me to believe that something was on the way. (in all fairness, signs that I recognized) I began to search for the missing elements that would make this work for me in every way rather than just in some ways.
What I’ve Learned
Thoughts, as I’ve said in the majority of my articles, that have either been conditioned into us from outside sources or from ourselves control what comes to us. To attract what we want, our thoughts must be in alignment with what we are focusing on. If we focus on something that we subconsciously don’t believe can come to us, no amount of wanting it will allow it to come.
When you’re not manifesting your desires your thoughts and the conditioning of yourself must turn from the circumference of your being to the core of your being.
What I mean is that your thoughts have to switch from the object of your desire which may be exterior to you or the circumference of being to the interior of you or your the core of your being.
Simply, from what you want to who you are.
What you are wanting is not coming to you because, I feel, you’re not ready to receive it and therefore it is not being allowed to manifest. This made total sense to me.
It begins as simply as changing your opinions and becoming somewhat indifferent to what occurs around you. When I’ve done this, changes happened and opportunities manifested seemingly out of nowhere and almost instantaneously. There was effort involved but it was minimal and WHAM! there it was.
When I opened myself up to possibilities ( “I suppose this could happen” ) and began to ask myself the right questions the whole world seemed to open up in front of me.
When the core of your being changes about what you want to manifest, the signs of the things you are wanting to create will become clear and visible. You cannot see that which you don’t believe in your heart of hearts you can create.
When what you’re wanting is not coming you’ve got to look inside for the resistance to what you want. It is there. You’ll find this resistance from asking yourself questions that will reveal to you how you FEEL about the question at hand. This feeling will let you know immediately why it’s not coming then from there you’ll be able to open yourself up to the possibilities and creating your life as you want it to be.
Tags: acheivement, Law of Attraction, life coaching, Mental picturing, personal development, self image, the secret